I reached out to a few girls and women, between the ages of 20-35 years, and asked them about their experiences with being forced to live up to expectations, and the effect it has had on their mental health. Academic pressure Scoring good grades and being the best at academics is something most students try to live up to, regardless of how terribly pressuring the situation can get. Being compared to peers, and forced to
I recently started an amazing job – – an opportunity that I’m so thankful for. And I’ve gotten the opportunity to work with many accomplished, talented and badass women over the past 4 months – – to say it is inspiring is an understatement. But a common theme remains no matter what job I work in, people seem to react VERY personally to criticism and to get upset about things that I don’t even notice.
I was in a photoshoot yesterday morning and the photographer kept repeating “smile like you love your life more than anything!” … This statement really got to me. You shouldn’t have to smile “like you love your life” – – you should love your life. Yes we all have awful days, sad days, frustrating days, disappointing days, lonely days etc… but we get to choose our state of mind and how we are going to
How would you like to be perceived? This is something we all think about (consciously or unconsciously) but think about it – – how do you want people to think of you? Personally, I always wanted to please everyone and to be accepted. So I spent a majority of my life trying win people over. BUT what I’ve learned is that how other people “see” you is a reflection of themselves and how they think
As I sit here writing this I have to laugh – – bulletproof is not a word I would’ve ever used to describe me in the past. You’ve all heard me talk about how shy, awkward, sensitive and worried I was growing up. So bulletproof is not a word any who knows me would most likely use to describe me but it’s how I would describe myself, and I smile with pride tonight because it
I’ve discussed the topic of change in previous posts but today I want to tackle how you embrace change. Life is unpredictable and none of us know what tomorrow will bring. I’ll be honest, in the first 23ish years of my life I was a total control freak – – I had it all planned. The job, the house I was going to build, the man I was going to love forever, the town I
“Do not rely completely on any other human being, however dear. We meet all life’s greatest tests alone.” ~Agnes Macphail I have found that the more time I spend alone, the more comfortable I become in my own skin because I can truly get to know myself. This provides me with more patience to accept myself as I am, wherever I am in my journey, on a daily basis. This lesson was something I learned
I recently uprooted my life once again and moved to Calgary, Alberta. Not going to lie… I never thought I’d live here and this was not part of any plan I ever had. But to be honest, none of my so called plans have worked out as I thought so I stopped planning awhile ago… My move to Calgary has not only been my favourite move ever, it has taught me one of me biggest lessons.
When I awoke this morning, I wasn’t feeling connected to a particular topic for today. My thoughts were scattered. And then a text message from a friend I haven’t spoken to in a while set off a light. I wished my friend a quick happy birthday last night and asked him how she was doing. Her reply, “We are overdue to get together. Things are okay. They could definitely be better, but then again, I could
Ever have one of those days? You know the kind I’m talking about; you put on two different shoes, you spill your coffee all over you car before 7:30 AM, when your presentation won’t open properly, when you get home at 7PM after waiting in traffic for so long, feeling so exhausted and defeated. Here are some ways you can feel instantly better when a day just isn’t going your way; 5 minute calls/facetime sessions