“If you are always trying to be normal, you will never know how amazing you can be.” ~Maya Angelou

By the time many of us are ready to start making our own way in life, the “normal” that is seamlessly integrated into the world around us means living without raising any eyebrows or rocking any boats. 

We spend four years at college studying subjects that may hold little to no passion for us, we take the sensible job that gives us no sense of fulfillment, and sadly many of us get married to our comfortable run-of-the-mill boyfriend. We end up with a mortgage, a car, kids, and a profound unhappiness that bubbles to the surface from time to time as pockets of depression.

It often takes a personal mini earthquake to shake loose from the “normal” life we create to reconnect with our authentic selves.

Life sends wake up calls from time to time. Sometimes they’re ear-splittingly loud and force you to look at how you’ve been living.

This is where some find themselves at a fork in the road. You have to make a decision. You could rebuild your life as before, or could try a new “normal”.

You’ll get a ton of advice packaged in “you should” or “you can’t” on your way back to happiness. Being your own kind of “normal” is how you find peace and purpose.

Normal is an illusion

What’s normal for you could be totally off-the-wall for me. And it doesn’t matter. It’s all good.

Normal is only an illusion.

Every one of us is exquisitely unique and “normal” all at the same time. Eccentricities, quirks, and personal passions bring diversity and color to a world that often appears drab and full of sameness.

If you try to fit into society’s definition of “normal”, you deny the world a chance to see your great spirit, and probably bring down a bucket load of unhappiness onto yourself too.

It takes courage to say no to general normalcy. There’s less risk just to go with the flow but there’s also far fewer rewards. It’s a scary, brave, bold, and liberating move to show the world your authentic, normal self.

These days my normal is working remotely in an area I’m overflowing with passion for, spirituality that fits me, and a marriage with a man whose normal is pretty similar to mine. There are still many, many books but far less mental arithmetic.

3 Simple Steps to Create Your Own Normal

1. Love and accept yourself in all your amazing glory.

2. Love people you want to love.

3. Do what you love.

Follow these simple steps and ignore all the naysayers, doubters, and negativists. Embrace your own normal and you’ll find you live a life far from average and ordinary.

BeBelle xo