We all value different characteristics in our friends, coworkers we hangout with, family etc. that we need to consider them “nice/kind” people.
What are these traits to you? Write five of them down on a piece of paper and then ask yourself if you also have those characteristics. At times we look for things in others that we do not have ourselves and in turn, those relationships compliment our weaknesses and can grow and flourish. At other times we choose to see things in people that may not actually be there but, because of their “reputation” or because we are missing traits in ourselves and they’re able to momentarily fill the void.
What I’ve discovered through many situations in the past five years is that most people only show you what they want you to see. Social media helps us do this by providing us all a platform to promote the smiley/wonderful times of life – – rarely do you see a “real” moment in anyones life … only what they want you to see. Think about this … do you do this? Do you know people who do this? There is nothing wrong with it, in fact – – it’s just the way things are today.
But it does make it hard to know who is real and who is telling you what you want to hear for their end goal. This may sound harsh but all this article is meant to do is to make you think, think about who should be in your life and who shouldn’t. But more importantly, what is missing in yourself that people who may not be made of all the pie pieces you need in a kind and positive person in your life are there. Surround yourself with genuine, real people – – people who make you better, who call you on your silliness, who are there for you through high highs and low lows and who are honest. These people are few and far between but “nice” is not someone who tells you what you want to hear and does everything you want – – it’s someone who has your back and always will. Look for these people, appreciate these people and try to be one yourself.